In need of advice

[floggin]

-Deep Breath-,wow I really hate posting things like this but maybe I can find advice here since nobody else seems to help...

Okay, these past couply months havn't been the best, they started off with my friend telling me she was moving to Colorado, and I know I'll never see her again.

Then, a couple of weeks after that on the school announcements they announced one of my friends from another school, Anthony, had died while he was playing the most stupid game in the world, the chokeing game. Everybody kept asking me things like if I knew he was doing this and why didn't I tell anybody, but I didn't know anything about it.

This is probally the only good part in the months,but still, it's confuseing. With the first family I had *my birth family* I thought it was only me that my mom had, but it turns out I had a half brother and half sister who were close to my age, that my family was keeping from me. I only found it out by looking through some files about me and I also found out some other stuff.

So it gets worse *I know I'm boring you all with my own problems now.. * My ex, who was still one of my good friends, is moveing also. He wasn't even going to tell me and he was just going to leave, so now we're fighting.

Then a little while ago *I don't know if the war in Iraq goes world wide, but I'm assumeing it does* my friends friends older brother who I knew very well was blown up in an exploseion.

...my point is I'm not really sure how to deal with all this. I've tried talking to my friends and stuff but all they say is "we have are own problems" and stuff. It's pretty pathetic that I'm turning to the internet for help..but does anybody have any advice?...

[Delirium]

About your friend, I would say you'll see her again ^_^ She wouldn't let herself not see you again. She could come home for holidays or stuff like that, too ;D

I don't really know what to say about the other stuff, since I haven't been through some of things myself.

But if you need us, we're here ^_^ : )

[floggin]

mm, *hugs* thanks, but I don't think she'll be comming home. None of her family live here, so there is know reason to.

[terra]

yah. do it one at a time dont clump the problems altogether. 1. You'll see her again just someday.2. Its not ur fault u didn't know it and u didn't do anything so y blame u its just wrong and dumb. 3. sorry if I insult ur parents but its thier fault cuz they didn't tell u, they dont think theey trust u and they shudn't keep any scerets from u. 4. ok y? 5. I'm soo sorrry.

sorry if it doesn't helps

[superdavefumc]

wow. that's... that's a lot of bad stuff in just a few months... well, things'll get better. i don't know any advice to offer you, since i haven't personally met you or know the nature of the people around you. just try and look on whatever bright side there is.

[floggin]

terra said:

yah. do it one at a time dont clump the problems altogether. 1. You'll see her again just someday.2. Its not ur fault u didn't know it and u didn't do anything so y blame u its just wrong and dumb. 3. sorry if I insult ur parents but its thier fault cuz they didn't tell u, they dont think theey trust u and they shudn't keep any scerets from u. 4. ok y? 5. I'm soo sorrry.

sorry if it doesn't helps

1.I hope. 2.yes it is, I could have knew what he was doing if I spent more time with him. 3.I know it is, when I told my mom she said "You never asked", I'm sorry but I would never think to ask "Did I have a half brother and half sister" 4. Because I yelled at him for not telling me and he said he hated me..and yah. 5. Thanks.

And superdave::

I'll attempt that.

[terra]

no prob

[floggin]

Um, yeah, I need help..again. o.0. About Anthony's case...how do I stop blameing myself? I don't know if any of you really know that since it's pretty much a mental thing...but I dunno, maybe you can...o.o

[terra]

ok sure. if I were u I wud look in a mirror and say, "This is not my fault. I did not do this." a couple of times

[floggin]

My parents will thing I got nuts...ah, I guess I could Try that when I was home alone..

[terra]

oh lol

[floggin]

Thanks for you help. :.hugs.:

[superdavefumc]

if it's any help, just remember: you're not the one who made him play the game.

[naomi]

I'm probably going to sound like a broken record but anyway.

Take one day at the time. Every time things feel over whelming, just take a deep breath and talk to someone or write down your feeling or draw. Anything but don't keep everything in.
^_^ Things will get better, just take one day at a time.

[floggin]

It's been two months...-sigh- I suppose your all right, but, he was just the one I always went to for advice and now it's like...wow.